Reaching out is not easy

Geri_Berri · **Geri_Berri**

Deep down I know just what would help me over come my depression

I did once lock myself away in my room for months on end...I didnt go to work....I feared answering the phone....I locked my self in...not much sleep and when I did get some...nothing but nightmares...I can loose my temper quite easily...but I know I never used to be like this...I have reached out for my partner to listen...asked him for help...he says he will but fails to carry out that promise

I have spoken to a shrink in the hospital..I felt for once at last someone listened to me...without judging me....he told me I needed to talk more to my partner...i did that again and got no where

I dont think there is much hope...but i'll be damed if I will pop a pill for a quick fix

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rose_ashes · **rose_ashes**

trust me, geri, i know the feeling.
i try to talk to matt about this stuff... and of course, it's just an overly-emotional woman thing. he just blows it off or changes the subject.

and sometimes talking really can do you a world of good... but that only works if you can find someone to talk TO. lol.

i know this won't help much, but if you would like to talk, i'm definitely here, definitely unbiased, and definitely understand what it's like to feel the way you feel. so don't hesitate to give me a call (email, whatever...lol)
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7/22/04

Geri_Berri · **Geri_Berri**

Thanks rose I appreciate that :)
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MoonBerri · **MoonBerri**

I've been through this too. I was on the other side of the illness. My hubby was the one who was sick. After he got better I began to feel a great sense of depression come over me like a dark cloud. I saw the commercials for zoloft and asked my doctor about it. He recommended that I try it. I was on it for about 3 mos. and never felt better. I know that some people don't believe in drug therapy and usually neither do I but this helped me greatly and I didn't become dependent on it. Geri in your case you will have to go through many emotional trips because it's the nature of the beast. Hold on to your inner peace and above all don't loose your sense of humor, you're going to need it.
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Kahrie · **Kahrie**

I have Depression and honestly don't know why Sad

i have cried over 'little-things' and don't know how to stop myself. i don't know anyone that can help me (or where to get help either) it's tough doing it all by yourself. everytime i cry etc due to my depression my fiance makes me feel guilty and utter crap Embarassed

so that's why i find it hard to cope, any ideas or thoughts on this?! Question

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Brutus · **Brutus**

Maybe depression pills only work because you think that they are going to work, and that really... you can work through your problems on your own. Of course, I've always had the great fortune of being almost completely emotionless, but... I don't know, it seems to me that often times people make their problems out to be alot worse than they actually are. Often times people forget to just sit back and look at a tree or listen to music. That's my crude spin on it at least.

Kahrie · **Kahrie**

Brutus · **Brutus**

Maybe it won't make it go away because you think it won't go away. My point was that your mind has alot more control over your body than alot of people give it credit. And... I wasn't saying that you should listen to music to make depression go away, I was just saying that you should enjoy everything you have.

Guest · **Guest**

kahrie, lots of people have depression and not one thing that works for one will work for another I so agree with that.... based on your posts its seems as if you are looking to diet correct????let me know of your findings.....to me it seems it would be most helpful but ......

Kahrie · **Kahrie**

Brutus · **Brutus**

Well it depends what the problem is. For example, if I got a cut and you said "fix it yourself" I'd say sure and grab peroxide and a bandaid and be fine. You're right though if you don't know what to fix it's hard to get started :/. I think I'm too emotionless to ever be able to understand depressio well :(.

rose_ashes · **rose_ashes**

would you tell a schizophrenic person who heard voices to get over it? would you tell a person with multiple personality disorders to get over it? it's the same principle. depression is no different from those other diseases. it is still a very severe mental illness. one of the biggest mistakes people make is telling themselves that if they just ignore it it will go away. oftentimes, the people who don't get help are the people who end up killing themselves or others.

for what normal people think of as "depression" (really not depression, just sadness), listening to music or relaxing may work wonderfully. but for those with clinical depression, things like that hardly phase us usually.
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7/22/04

MoonBerri · **MoonBerri**

There is a huge difference between having the blues and being physically or emotionally depressed. An imballance in our system can trigger this and sometimes you need a little help to get back on track. I don't feel bad at all for taking a drug over a phydo treatment on this occasion. I'm not one to turn to drugs for every ailment I usually find a natural solution but sometimes there isn't always one available.
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Rhyknow · **Rhyknow**

Well i've been in a constant state of depression since the passing of my friend... I have felt and still do feel suicidal a lot of the time, but i find it helps to simply look at my life, and to tell myself it can only get better...

I hate the feeling of depression... I would go to a therapist/shrink but I have had very bad experiences with them before...
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Perfect Imperfection · **Perfect Imperfection**

I know this subject ashn't been posted on for a while, but I'd just like to give my view on it.
Geri, I'm very sorry for what you're going through, so many people suffer when they shouldn't have to. I was diagnosed with depression when I was 15. I'm now 21. The first thing the doctor done was put me on strong anti-depressants (can't remember the name) It was awful, I felt I was too young to be on them and should be able to be sorted out more naturally. Six months down the line and a lot of pills later nothing was helping. So the decision was made to stop gonig to the doctor. Instead I went to a woman who practices accupunture, knisiology (sorry bad spelling) and other things I don't know the name of!! She was able to tell me that I have a chemical inbalance in my brain, which was causing the depression and also insomnia. Instead of being packed full of pills with additives that would cause unknown danage to me she gave me natural remedies. She told me that certain foods I was eating were also helping to contribute to how I was feeling and urged me to cut down on a number of things. A few months down the line taking her advice and medications I was feeling great. And even better was the fact what I was taking don't do your body harm. I haven't been to see her in 2 years now :) She has helped me more than the doctor ever could.

I know natural remedies don't always help everyone but thankfully I was lucky and it helped me. I won't say I'm totally cured as I still get bouts but then I just remember the advice she gave me and I know if it gets to a very bad point I can go back.

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