Guys... I need help.

Rhyknow · **Rhyknow**

I'm going through a really rough period at the moment... Ever since i went to the UK actually... There are things that i have done... that i wont talk about in public that give me terrible nightmares... I wake up every night screaming and/or crying... My doctor has me on prozac but it isnt helping at all... To top that I have the typical teenage problems... always a girl, eh? Does anyone know an effective method for beating depression?

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JMPD · **JMPD**

Dealing with the easiest first....

"The girl". You aren't going through anything that the rest of the planet hasn't. Although it may feel like you are alone and no one understands, we've ALL been there. That may not help, but it is the truth. I could haul out the old cliches about fish in the sea, etc, but I won't. Just remember that it won't kill you, and you will either work out your differences with her, or move on and find another.

The nightmares you are having. If these are related to the 'things you've done', then it is your subconscious telling you that you have been untrue to yourself. The only thing you can do here is accept responsibility for the things you have done, and make amends to any injured parties. Then vow NOT to do the same things in the future. You have the power to make the choices in your life for good or ill.

Depression? Again, only YOU can work this out. If it is depression caused by hormonal or dietary imbalance, then speak truthfully to your doctor and find a good nutritionist to adjust your diet.

If it is a case of "singing the blues, woe is me, my life sucks", then again, it is entirely up to YOU to choose to be miserable or not. We are each unique individuals, but we experience the same problems and troubles. Whether it is women/men, finances, school, work, or anything else in your life; ONLY YOU have the power to enact changes in your life.

This will probablt sound harsh, and may not be what you WANT to hear, but......

Problems with boy/girlfriend, husband/wife? Talk to the other party, see where the problem lies, communicate, correct, and if need be, end the relationship and move on.

Problems with finances? Look at your budget. Are you living beyond your income? then correct it.

Problems with school? Remember, without an education, you are pretty much doomed to working in Mickey D's for the rest of your life. Take what you can from school, learn as much as you can. This, like much of life, is a phase you have to go through. Again, its up to you whether the phase is enjoyable and profitable, or merely a prison sentence.

Don't like your job? Find a better one. (Huh! easy for you to say. I hear you mutter) Yeah, well, I've left many a job because it wasn't right. Money may have been great, but if you aren't happy, then its up to you to decide which is more important to you.

Life is a journey: there are peaks and valleys we all have to go through. It is what you learn about yourself along the way that is important.

I hope this helps somewhat, and if you need to talk one-on-one, PM me and I can see if there is anything specific I can do to help.

Joe
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Bebi · **Bebi**

There are so many things that can be done for depression, drugs are just one. Speak to your doctor, they may either re-evaluate your medication or refer you for counselling. Remember that even just confiding in a trusted friend can lessen the burden, it helps for me.

JM's post basically said everything else I was going to suggest Smilie_PDT

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El Bandito · **El Bandito**

I agree Geri...and I know the girl first hand....I also agree that your parents don't help...Plus you know I'm there to listen...But you need to help yourself ...and see your self worth..first...without thinking good things about yourself ...you can't succeed in any kind of relationship...Plus girls your age can be vicious and cruel ...if they want to be..they are also fickle...self centered...etc,...but guys your age...sometimes fall hard..for a girl and she just thrives on it...I don't know if it's a maturity thing or what ..but IMO...relationships at your age ...well they don't last...some do...but it's a very small percentage...so don't sweat the small stuff...even though at the time it doesn't seems small....You'll look back and say..."What was I putting myself through all that for"?

When you finally find that special someone..you'll know the difference...it will hit you right in the face and heart...and you will know...as for all the other crap that you went through..that will also disappear....trust me...El Bandito
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rose_ashes · **rose_ashes**

argh... relationships. at this age. suck. bigtime.

hopefully, you weren't dating the girl for two years when she dumped you. believe me, it's not a fun situation to be in. regardless, a broken heart is a broken heart. thanks for the pm regarding my painful ordeal. i hope that things get better for you, and since we're in the same boat, i hope that we BOTH work our ways out of this. though depression is perhaps one of the most consuming diseases and the most difficult to beat.
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Rhyknow · **Rhyknow**