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Post subject: Confidence and the internet
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A lot of people I've spoken to say they feel more confident chatting via the internet than in real life.
I have a theory about this.
There are less "real life pressures" on the internet. For example:
It's a lot easier to say no to someone if you're not face to face.
The worry of appearance isn't a problem and you only have to give out a picture if you want to.
You can read through what you've just "said" and edit it before you hit send.
My psychiatrist has actually told me that as I have a social phobia I'm doing myself good by making friends online.
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 Fri May 19, 2006 11:25 am |
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| I voted that I've never really noticed. I've never really had a problem talking to people...especially strangers. When I'm out in public, I'll talk to just about anyone. However, if I'm at a social event like a party, I'm usually just sitting back watching people. Party conversation just seems so shallow and fake to me. Now, if I could ask these people what I really wanted to...then I could have some conversation. :lool: |
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| Fri May 19, 2006 7:34 pm |
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I have noticed that I am more comfortable speaking my mind on line than in real life.
I am usually a pretty confident self assured fellow ( or at least I can fake it pretty well), but in face to face talks, I tend to downplay my own thoughts and opinions for fear of offending the other person(s).
A strange side effect being that after I get to 'know' people online, the same constraints fall into place. People come to expect certain modes of behavior from someone, and I try to live up to others expectations of me.
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| Fri May 19, 2006 9:48 pm |
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when online, i feel like i have an opportunity to be myself. who cares if someone halfway around the world gets annoyed with my true self? however, in real life, showing your true self is a dangerous thing... especially in highschool where expectations play such a huge role. i've gotten to the point where i switch my personality according to the person with whom i'm talking to suit their taste. if jill likes witty, humorous people, when talking to her, i'm witty and humerous. if bob likes serious, thoughtful people, i'll be that way around him. half the time i don't know who i am because i have so many of these different people inside of me...
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| Sat May 20, 2006 2:33 am |
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Not me i have no issue talking i talk for a living lol..literally i cut hair and its os social and I have great conversastions with so many differnt people...
One thing I noticed is i have more to talk about i have learned alot hanging out here lol everyone regardless if i agree with them or not give me the gift of a perspective I don't have it helps understnad others better....
I have fine tuned my voice gotten rid of what isn't serving me its been awesome for that the feed back is awesome for one who is looking for growth in many ways i see this journey as a tool to decide and define who I am next....i truly am grateful for the experinece the ones that are the most difficult are the ones I learn the most from.....I stand in my truth alot more than i did where before I'd not trip on it whatever you beleive is fine with me.....
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